Do you know what I find so interesting? I have seen so many people talk about mental health but only a few who really understand it. Mental health isn’t just about 8 hours of sleep, and a fairly good routine or avoiding negativity altogether. It is more than that; it can only be mastered through training to strengthen your mental abilities, i.e. the subconscious mind.
The fact that I’ve spent 20 years learning it’s importance but not how it could be achieved, bothered me a little this past December. I got frustrated although everything around me was perfect- I was with my family, traveling to new places, meeting new people and learning new things. Yet, all I felt was unfulfilled. Why? Why when I was doing the things I loved the most, did I feel so empty?
AT HIGH KNOB, VIRGINIA BY ARUSHI SACHAN (OCT 2016); MODEL: ANU VNOR
One morning mid December, 23rd to be exact, I woke up. I woke up not just at 5 am to no alarm, but also to a whole new world of, as I see it, a greater consciousness. So here it came, what I knew yet never implemented, the strongest urge to master my subconscious mind, to understand what ‘MENTAL STRENGTH’ really meant, at this very moment. I low-key had the idea that my life was going to change.
It’s been around two months now, and while my goal looked like it was a lot further, I have already started to see results. It was simple. My dreams for me were just dreams up until now, and that was exactly what needed to change!
While there are 100 things you can do to achieve success on the road to a fully conquered mind, these I thought, after talking to a few extremely strong people, watching about 50 Ted Talks and reading at least four self help books in the past two months, are the TOP FIVE WAYS I SHORTLISTED, THAT YOU COULD USE TO ENHANCE YOUR MENTAL STRENGTH:
SACRIFICE: Practice tolerating discomfort, there is way less crowd up that extra mile
Sometimes, to gain something, you got to lose something. But do you really lose if you work so hard toward all your goals? So please don’t call ‘hard work and sweat’ a loss!
AT HIGH KNOB, VIRGINIA BY ARUSHI SACHAN (OCT 2016)
By sacrifice, I mean sitting down and drawing a circle that includes everything that’s within your value system right now, and coming face to face with things that stop you from working toward your spiritual health- because frankly, time is as swift as it is precious and it deserves to be managed well. We aren’t talking just body; we are talking soul here.
Are you happy with the way you treat your son? or the amount of hours you have put into math? when was the last time you called your grandpa? or your old friend in Italy? How many people in your social media are close enough to know that you don’t have much time left to live? All these little things that you aren’t happy with- Change them! Try to cut down inaccuracy and unproductivity altogether. Laws of Thermodynamics taught us that beyond everything we give up, we gain something, for energy can neither be created nor destroyed, it can only be transformed into another form- so chose the form wisely, since every second counts.
CONSISTENCY: There is nothing that can’t be achieved if you are persistent
RAILWAY TRACK ALONG SOUTH MAIN ST, VIRGINIA BY ARUSHI SACHAN (OCT 2016); MODEL: HEATHER (HER PHOTOGRAPHY)
When I say do not give up, I mean DO NOT GIVE UP. It is okay to fail ten times and still try, rather than failing once and never trying again. The most successful people in this world are those who do what they have set their minds to. If you have a goal, be so passionate that it’s energy reverberates from every ounce of you, that even ugliest parts and obstacles do not stop you from being determined to succeed. Stopping half way or even procrastinating is like poison, since it makes your goal a ‘fear’ inside your subconscious. This process might sound boring, but hell the view is beautiful from up there.
AT HIGH KNOB, VIRGINIA BY ARUSHI SACHAN (OCT 2016)
I for one, the most easy going person who really didn’t give two damns(still don’t), started waking up at 5 am and sleeping at 11 pm; doable. I always reward myself by sleeping as much as I want during weekends. It slowly became so important to me, that days that friends called me to meet them past my bed time, I refused. When I felt like staying in bed past 5.15 am, I’d remind myself how far I’ve come and wake up. Feeling a sense of accomplishment, I developed more new habits- discarded procrastination altogether, started going to the gym five out of seven days, finished my to-do list for every day, built 100% class attendance and started meditating regularly.
FACE YOUR FEARS: and scare them away for good
Being a hypnotherapist, I know that most people’s fears stem from a void in their subconscious that came into existence due to a past experience- be it in this life time or another (maybe even a parallel universe). It’s not a normal state of mind to be fearful of something since it drags you into negative energy levels- so work on it. Believe me, overcoming your fears aka venting, is the best gift you could give your mind. By overcoming, I mean doing exactly the task you fear and finding yourself across the impossible.
AT JAMES MADISON UNIVERSITY, VIRGINIA BY LINH (OCT 2016); MODEL: ARUSHI SACHAN
I was an introvert pretty much all my life. Up until high school, my life consisted only of getting good grades and a million words I never said to people who never became my friends. Changing many schools and moving a lot, I had so much to say and such little strength. In 2012, it all got too much and I exploded. On the verge of giving up on life, the fine line that I fought, it was the first time I chose myself over my circumstances. I rolled up my sleeves to find myself becoming outgoing, positive and an inspired person, and to this day I am able to share my story through writing poetry, speaking on stage and painting for hours in a row. Remember, you are meant to learn from your mistakes; so if it doesn’t happen the first time through, life keeps surprising you, till you learn to overcome, let go and free yourself from the cycle that’s fear.
TAKE CHARGE: Stop with the blame game and excuses
This is your life to live; no one can live it for you. So that makes you 100% responsible for every good thing and bad that happens to you. You are a deliberate creator who wakes up every day and makes a choice- ‘Do I want to be happy for everything I have today or do I want to be miserable for the things I do not have?’
IN MANHATTAN, NY BY ARUSHI SACHAN (NOV 2016)
It helps to imagine yourself five years from now- Who are you? What are your values? What makes you, you? With that, I’d say, have no limits. Be an idealist in the way you dream and a realist in everything you do to achieve it. If you see yourself as a millionaire, then act like one. Inculcate habits of a millionaire. You can’t be lazy and keep dreaming if you want to see results. Like I said, everything is energy and what you put in, you get out. So if you vibrate at a higher frequency you will tend to attract circumstances and people that help you reach your goal.
Closest people gave me shit for being overweight (almost obese) last spring. It hurt to be me. I knew I had to prove a lot of people wrong, but more than others, myself! As of last summer, I weighed 172lbs(78kg). Today, I weigh 152lbs(69kg) [pictures below]. I lost 20lbs(11kg) in 8 months, and I’m not stopping till I get my abs! My point is, what’s more important is not just the weight I lost, but it’s the insecurity, the way I treated myself, and everything in between too. I came out about my interest in fashion after years of silence, because I realized that I don’t need to be a size zero to dress flawlessly and express the confidence I was gaining day by day.
MY WEIGHT LOSS PROGRESS JAN 2016 VS. FEB 2017
5. AVOID TECHNOLOGY: Roar alone like a lion or follow the herd like a sheep
Here is something you have to remember – Nobody is perfect and nobody’s life is flawless. Yet you are convinced that the girl with the magnificent DSLR pictures on her IG never sheds a tear and that the guy with the rich parents who buy him anything he wants, isn’t being bullied. Social media can be a fake version of reality, and anything that isn’t real causes us to lose trust. How many of those 1,500 friends on Facebook actually remember your birthday, without having to look it up?
IN CENTRAL PARK, NY BY ARUSHI SACHAN (NOV 2016)
You might not realize it, but social media gradually becomes a big determining factor in your level of confidence. After a point, the posts and pictures that you put up there are not because of who you are, but because of how you want other people to see you. So there are technically two versions of you and gradually, you construct your social media reality only to lose alignment with your true self, your soul, and allow people to become the deciding factor of your happiness. No addiction is ever good. According to a recent research study by the APA: “the obsessive compulsive desire to take photos of one’s self and post them on social media as a way to make up for the lack of self-esteem and to fill a gap in intimacy.”
Our mind is probably one of the most beautiful gifts given to us. It can dream things that have never existed, it can create beauty in ways no one has ever fathomed, it can flow like water and halt like ice. The mind is like a Universe of its own- it has destroyed so many and motivated so many. Powerful yet humble, at the end of the day, our mind is so loyal to us, that if we feed it with negativity, it will reflect just that for us. Just imagine, if you feed this mind with the attitude of positivity, infinity, love and light, there isn’t anything that you can’t dream that isn’t attainable!
IN BALI, INDONESIA BY ARUSHI SACHAN (DEC 2016)
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